First- I’m really sorry. I understand how challenging it is to fight with a loved one so much that they disconnect. But I believe in my heart reconnection is possible.
Second, Reddit has a community to support you.
The country been repeatedly targeted by strategic disinformation campaigns to divide us for the past few years.
It’s been working beautifully for our adversaries for the past few years on social media. They managed to cripple us without firing a single shot.
No one likes to feel they’ve been conned or made a fool of and my heart goes out to those of you who have lost a loved one to Qanon.
I’ve been thinking a lot about the psychological warfare that was waged against us and we’re still learning the extent of it.
We’re ripe for these kinds of attacks because people dismiss the importance of mental health in this culture.
I suspect, but am no expert, that it may be easier to combat this dangerous movement if they can somehow come to understand that they were conned. But not by 45 or people in the movement, fellow “patriots,” but bad actors who only intended to divide us. (If you’re still on speaking terms.)
That way, it relieves the sting of being “wrong” (b/c they were victims) and they don’t have to bump up against the uncomfortable feelings associated with that baggage.
You can even go so far as to say something like – “you know… I have to say given everything you went through with everyone calling you crazy etc., that it’s clearly your love for this country that animated you.
And I’m really sorry you got swept up in the chaos. It seems like it must have been really agitating to get caught up in a movement that was infiltrated by bad actors.
I hope you made some *real* patriot friends along the way. It seems like the community you built was really important to you. Hopefully when you look back on this time, that’s what you’ll remember and take with you. The sense of community, and love for your country.
If you’re not at the point that you can have a civil conversation, make that your first goal.
Pretend you’re courting someone. Go slow, text them something funny (not political obvs.), invite them to play Words with Friends.
Any small thing to let them know you haven’t left. Earn their trust. Resist the temptation to argue.
Anyhow, just some thoughts. My son and my mother voted for 45 the first time and the first couple of years were rough.
Good luck and I hope you can all be reunited with your loved ones.